Cultivating your Tribe
In the world of therapy we talk about support and resources a lot— probably every session. Our (healthy) support systems remind us that we are not alone.
Support systems do NOT include:
people who push boundaries
Using the term “tribe” to discuss your community isn’t a new thing. A tribe is a distinctive, close-knit group. You have the power to cultivate a tribe that you trust to reciprocate vulnerability, trust and authenticity. You know these people are connected with your true self.
Tribes can be made up of:
people from school
People of the same gender
People of the opposite gender
people that love making art together
people who love improv
people that love coffee
people that love noise music
people in a book club
people who play sports together
people who have corgis
people who share the same career
people who play video games together
.. the list goes on
But how do you find your tribe?
Consider what you love and value. Go to meetups, shows, book readings, art classes. Join a sports league. Cultivating your tribe can be really hard. It requires you to be vulnerable and put yourself in an uncomfortable spot. How can you motivate yourself to enter into this space? Imagine what life would feel like with intimate connections, mutual respect and shared curiosity.
A member of your tribe:
respects your boundaries
asks for support from you
adds value to your life
And even when you struggle to find your tribe, know that you are not alone.