How to Be Unapologetic about Your Self Care Practice
I write A LOT about prioritizing self care. For one, it can be quite a challenge to make time for self care. Our lives are structured to go, go, go and our culture views “busy” as a status symbol. Which brings up point number two: Self care is not viewed as necessary by many people.
You’ve probably noticed an upswing in talks of self care in the media over the past couple of years. I understand it can feel like a constant battle to establish a practice that feels good, accessible AND guilt free.
Negative self talk (those unkind things we say to our selves) create a gnarly wall in your ability to establish healthy self care rituals. Thoughts like:
I don’t have time for this.
Self care is silly.
I practiced self care last Thursday. I’m good for now.
I’ll go for a walk if I get done with this work.
I don’t deserve this.
I shouldn’t ignore others’ needs.
I don’t need this.
I should be able to do everything without needing a break.
I’m not a good [fill in the blank] if I can’t do it all.
A common strategy to work with negative self beliefs is to begin using mantras. Mantras are simply words or phrases that you can repeat to yourself. Think of mantras as armor for negative self talk. A negative thought comes into mind? Start repeating your mantra. Let’s also acknowledge that guilt may come up. It’s normal and common; and you have permission to keep moving forward. Guilt does not have to stop you. Remind yourself that you’re a badass and don’t apologize for it. A few unapologetic mantras for self care:
I will practice self care when I want it.
Feeling good is my birthright.
My wise self knows what I need; I will listen to her.
I make space and time for myself first.
I will not apologize for putting myself first.
I channel my inner badass by saying NO to that which does not serve me.
I am worthy of addressing my needs.
I prioritize myself.
I create boundaries that support my self care practice.
I will refill my energy before I help others.
I will not allow guilt to control my self care practice.
Self care is not selfish.
I am strong AND I need rest.
I acknowledge feelings of guilt that arise and choose to focus on an unapologetic practice.
So, how do you practice an unapologetic self care practice? Simply, don’t apologize.
Adele is a Board Certified Art Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of Alexandria Art Therapy. She works with women who feel stuck in life, including those experiencing fertility, pregnancy and postpartum stress. As a mom, she understands that prioritizing self care and establishing balance is tough. She enjoys helping women find their voice and tap into their intuition.